Actress Park Jung Ah’s mother has been in a debilitated state for a long time now. Her collapse left her without any awareness of her surroundings and unable to communicate…she also last half of her memory (slight error in translation…not one minute, but one half).
Its true, you always wonder “what if.” What if you had been able to do this, to do that, said this, told them that, one last time. What if you had been there, could you have helped? Changed things? Stopped something from happening? Could you have showed your love, your feelings? Perhaps if you had come a little earlier, left a little later, taken five minutes from your day to make a call, maybe talked to somebody rather than watch your favorite show….would things be different?
It seems that we are always full of regrets. Always full of what ifs, always wondering what could have been. We try to imagine the defiance of fate, try to imagine that we could have changed the outcome, stopped the inevitable from ever happening. What can we do but that? In helplessness, in desperation, with broken hopes and unfulfilled desires, we try to fight with ourselves with a what if….but nothing changes.
My beliefs are contradictory. I believe I can make my own destiny, work towards the future I choose. Yet, I am aware that whatever will be, will be. Whatever happens, happens for a reason. Nothing I do can change what took place, what happened, what I lost or what I gained, what was in my fate. How do I find a compromise? Perhaps….it is in my power to do everything I can right now…but the moment this moment slips away, perhaps I shouldn’t expect it could have gone differently, shouldn’t regret what I didn’t do. I can set everything in place to reach a point, cherish that brief moment when I reach it, and watch it slip away, accepting that nothing could have ever changed how that moment existed.
Maybe thats where the line “never miss a chance to say I love you” comes from…..you can try, atleast, to love and cherish and treasure and appreciate what you have, the moments that exist now and will exist. And it would be foolish to say you’ll never regret what else could have been, that you’ll never want to wonder what if. Yet, maybe, if you did as much as you could, tried as hard as you could, filled up now with as much as you could, perhaps the what ifs will be fewer, and perhaps they’ll hurt less.
Que Sera Sera (Instrumental Piece, from the OST of Que Sera Sera (2007)), Various Artists.
आनेवाला पल जानेवाला है (“The Coming Moment” from Golmaal), Kishore Kumar
